Odd Future member, Frank Ocean, just recently revealed to the masses that he is a bisexual man and I couldn’t be more happier! Finally!! Someone in our community, who is doing positive things, who can set the example for our younger generation that being who you are is ok! You don’t have to hide, you don’t have to conform to what others want you to be. Its really just ok to be you! And for that I thank you Frank Ocean.
I’m no Dream Hampton, I’m simply just Vivian. A girl they call the NYC Gossip Girl who happens to have a young daughter who is gay and who had a hard time trying to express who she really was. If anyone knows me then they know my struggle. I had my oldest daughter when I was only 16 years old. She’s seen me go through it with her dad. A man who really wanted no parts of his children unless I was involved with him. A sad part of life, but oh so very true.
My daughter has seen her father treat me poorly including putting his hands on me. An act I wish she would’ve never saw. And sometimes when I think about my daughter, I always wonder if her witnessing her fathers behavior towards me made her turn to women for safety because maybe in her mind men sucked. Highly unlikely, but I always thought that was a possibility.
But nevertheless, I write these words simply because I am relieved that at this point my daughter has someone in her community she can relate to. Someone who is a mover and shaker in this industry has revealed himself for who he is with no regrets and no worries about any backlash. I know that was a hard thing in itself because when my daughter revealed to me that she was gay it was hard for her.
I saw her struggle when she fixed her mouth to reveal to me something she probably thought I was going to hate her for. But in my mind, I was thinking how can my child ever think that I would hate her? That I would reject her because of who she chooses to be with? I’m not a perfect mother, but I would like to say I’m an open-minded mother who loves ALL of her kids with no restrictions.
Love does not come with restrictions. You either love someone or you don’t. Plain and simple. Sure you get mad at the people you love on occasion, but that love never goes away.
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A photo of my daughter and I at her high school graduation
I say all of that to say this………….My heart goes out to Frank Ocean and any other individual who felt like they had to struggle in life in dealing with who they are. Know that you are loved by many regardless of what your choices in life may be. I couldn’t thank you more. I appreciate you in ways you’ll never know and I don’t even know you. Many blessings and continued success!